Respect in Relationships, Part 1, Show Notes

In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we are discussing respect in relationships.

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Respect in Relationships

Respect plays a crucial role in fostering a healthy relationship. It's normal for partners to have disagreements and arguments, but it's still important to maintain respect for each other. When one partner disregards or undermines the feelings, interests, opinions, or beliefs of the other, it can significantly damage the relationship.

At the beginning of a relationship, it is crucial to have an open and honest discussion about respect with your partner. While there may be some fundamental understanding of respect, it's important to acknowledge that each person may have their own interpretation and expectations of what respectful behavior entails. By having this conversation, you can establish a shared understanding and ensure that both partners feel respected in the relationship.

What is respect?

Oxford Dictionary;

a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.

VERB; admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

How To Show Respect

In order to build and maintain healthy relationships, it is crucial to establish a foundation of mutual respect. This can be demonstrated through various positive behaviors, such as actively listening to your partner's emotions, respecting their personal boundaries, encouraging and supporting their interests and goals, and speaking kindly about them when discussing your relationship with others. By practicing these behaviors consistently, you can foster a strong and respectful bond with your partner. Respecting someone involves expressing admiration and esteem for them by consistently demonstrating considerate actions, behaviors, and words.

You can love someone and still be disrespectful

1)      Good Communication

The concept of disrespect can vary from person to person. For instance, consider a scenario where someone purchases a vacuum cleaner as a birthday gift for their partner, believing it to be a thoughtful and valuable present. If the recipient of the gift is a stay-at-home parent who takes care of most household chores, it's important to consider their perspective. While the gift may be luxurious and well-intentioned, they may find it disrespectful. It's crucial to be mindful of their role and appreciate their contributions before deciding on a gift.

Neglecting to address an issue can lead to the accumulation of resentment, which can greatly strain a relationship. However, maintaining ongoing and open communication can effectively prevent or resolve such situations. In some cases, a couple might agree that household appliances are not suitable as gifts but should instead be considered as shared purchases for their home. This way, they can prioritize spending on items that are more personal or meaningful to each other while jointly investing in essential household items.

It is important to have open discussions in the early stages of a relationship. However, it is crucial to recognize that people evolve and circumstances can change over time. To foster a healthy relationship, it is beneficial for both individuals to grant each other permission to express themselves freely and without judgment. Regularly engaging in open communication can help maintain a strong connection and adapt to any changes that may arise. Both individuals in a relationship should feel at ease expressing their evolving thoughts and emotions. If this is not the case, it could be an indication of underlying issues that require addressing in order to maintain a healthy relationship.

2)      Be Honest.  Take Responsibility

Maintaining a healthy relationship can be challenging, even for the most content and emotionally well-adjusted couples. It is natural to have disagreements, make mistakes in decision-making, go through mood changes, and occasionally overstep boundaries. It's important to be aware that even when we don't mean to, we might unintentionally disrespect our partners. This can occur during heated arguments or when we're having a rough day.

It's common for couples to establish boundaries, such as not entering the bathroom while one partner is showering. However, in certain situations, you may find yourself needing to break this agreement due to time constraints. Despite your harmless intentions and personal views on the boundary, it's important to acknowledge that repeatedly disregarding your partner's wishes can be seen as a form of disrespect. Open communication and finding alternative solutions can help address this issue within your relationship.

Instead of requesting your partner to compromise on their personal boundaries, consider taking a small step that can prevent potential conflicts. Apologize to your partner and make an effort to set an earlier alarm for yourself, ensuring that their shower routine remains uninterrupted. This thoughtful gesture can help maintain harmony in your relationship.

3)      Support Your Partner’s Interests

It's common for couples to have different interests, passions, and hobbies. For instance, your partner may be an avid hiker while you may not share the same enthusiasm. It's perfectly acceptable to not participate in their hiking adventures if it doesn't interest you. However, it's important to support and encourage them to pursue their own interests without discouraging them from engaging in activities they enjoy. Respecting your partner's values is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. Even if you don't personally find value in the same things, it's important to acknowledge and honor their perspective.

When you notice that your partner's interests or behaviors could be harmful to you or your relationship, it is essential to engage in an honest conversation about the issue. This discussion serves as a vital step towards addressing any concerns and finding solutions that can help safeguard the well-being of both individuals involved in the relationship. For instance, activities such as base jumping, gambling, or smoking cigarettes may be seen as disrespectful from your perspective. It is important to address these concerns and find a mutually agreeable solution that prioritizes the well-being of both individuals involved. In order to nurture a healthy and respectful relationship with your partner, it is essential to make an effort to understand them. Instead of resorting to giving ultimatums, it is recommended to communicate openly about your perspective and concerns. By explaining your point of view, you can encourage a constructive dialogue and explore potential compromises together.

4)      Rebuild broken trust

Engaging in behaviors such as snooping through their social media messages, reading your partner's journal, or spending time with an ex without talking to your current partner can be perceived as disrespectful. However, it's important to note that the perception of disrespect can vary from relationship to relationship. It is crucial to have open and honest conversations with your partner about boundaries and expectations in order to establish a mutual understanding regarding these specific instances. Effective communication is key in maintaining a healthy and respectful relationship. You may agree with this list, but your partner may not. 

Respect and trust are closely intertwined in any relationship. When you have faith in your partner's integrity and believe that they are not engaging in inappropriate conversations online, there should be no need to invade their privacy by going through their private messages. If you have complete faith in your partner's integrity and believe that they will not engage in any inappropriate behavior while they are away from you, there should be no reason for concern regarding their whereabouts or the company they keep.

In healthy relationships, it is important for both partners to have open and honest communication. Partners should feel comfortable discussing their concerns or fears as they come up, rather than hiding them. This level of openness fosters trust and allows for the growth and improvement of the relationship. It is important for individuals to feel at ease discussing their decisions in advance, especially if they are aware that the decision has the potential to upset their partner. Open communication and transparency can help strengthen relationships and prevent unnecessary conflicts.

Showing respect for your partner involves making an active effort to understand their boundaries.

NEXT EPISODE: Respect in Relationships, Part 2

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David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT

The Motor City Hypnotist