Empower Your Mind For Success, Part 1 Show Notes
In this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast we are going to be tell you how to Empower Your Mind For Success.
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EMPOWER YOUR MIND FOR SUCCESS
On our last podcast we talked with Don Ferguson. He left a corporate America job where he was making six figures a years. He decided that he did not want to leave control of his life and livelihood to a company.
I asked you to write down 5 things that you are passionate about.
Now, what if you could change your life right now, and do something you are passionate about and make a living??
Your first reaction is probably, there is no way. I can’t.
There is no doubt that our beliefs are what impact our successes and failure in life. However, it may be difficult to accept this fact. This is precisely where the problem lies. If you don’t believe it, you cannot change it!
He may be known as a hypnotist, mentalist, magician, and motivational speaker.
Derren Brown has a special on Netflix called “Miracle”.
In it he expresses one of the most powerful theories on our belief system that I have ever heard.
“Don’t tell yourself you’re going to fail. That’s just a story we tell ourselves. And this idea that our stories define us, in other words, it’s really not events that affect us but more our reactions to them. This all goes back to a Roman philosopher called Epictetus. Epictetus said there are things in your life that you are in control of and there are things in your life that you are not in control of. So if you stop trying to control or change things that are not under your control anyway, you will of course remove any pointless frustration and anxiety from your life.”
“There are only two things that you are in control of. Your own thoughts and your own actions! That’s it! Everything else, what other people do, what they think, what they think of you, the way they behave, you can’t control any of that. So if you stop trying to, if you stop trying to fix it or change it, if you just decide anything on that side is fine and just let it go, nothing bad happens. You just feel better. You feel happier. You feel relief. Like you have just put down a heavy case of bricks.” (*Derren Brown, Miracle, Faith or Fiction 2018 Netflix)
I want to build on Derren’s words and emphasize that we all tell ourselves stories. It has happened since we were self-aware at a very young age.
We make up these stories based on events and experiences in our lives. When we were young children, we believed in Santa Claus.
We all told ourselves that a man in a red suit would visit our homes and leave us presents under the tree on Christmas morning. We all continued to tell ourselves the same story every year until one day, the story changed.
That story no longer continued to be true. Had we continued to tell ourselves that same story into adulthood, you can imagine the issues that would cause.
The point I want to emphasize is that this story changes for children based on new information.
That new information is that Santa Clause does not exist. It was a lie. Again, had you continued to believe that lie, it would adversely affect your life as an adult.
We do the same things with many other lies that we tell ourselves, such as,
‘I’m not good enough”;
“I’m not smart enough”;
“I cannot do what other people can do”;
“I don’t have the ability to be successful”.
All these lies are based on what other people have told you or experiences of failure, feelings of low self-esteem, and other negative experiences in your life.
And these destructive thoughts, the stories we tell ourselves, often last into adulthood, affecting work, relationships and preventing you from achieving the success you are looking for.
Now that we are addressing beliefs, the stories we tell ourselves, I need you to pay attention to the piece of furniture you are sitting on as you read this book. It seems sturdy. Obviously, it’s able to hold your weight. It’s doing its job just fine.
But did you know right before you sat down to read this book, you had to make a quick snap decision. In fact, it went by so quickly that you probably were not even aware of it. Still, you needed to make that decision. What am I talking about? I’m talking about your assessment of the fitness of that piece of furniture.
Belief is the reason you sat down without even thinking about it. You simply believed that the chair would hold your weight. You believed that the chair is in good enough shape to be able to take care of you and save you from any harm.
But here is the crazy part. You never made the decision consciously. You don’t stand around a chair asking yourself whether the chair will hold you or not. This process is done within a split second in the “back of your mind”.
This “back of your mind” I’m referring to is the subconscious mind where all your beliefs are stored. The stories that we tell ourselves are on a constant loop, and we are not even aware of the messages being reinforced in the subconscious mind.
I want to emphasize the point that belief is vital for your daily existence. You do it all the time. Your beliefs are what motivate you to operate. You live in belief. Belief is what ties your life together. It informs your decisions and makes your life possible.
If you believe that a particular chair can hold you up, then why do you believe in things that hold you down? If you are struggling in life, it is because you continue to believe in the things that prevent you from moving forward. You continuously tell yourself the same stories. These stories are based on the experiences of your past. They continue to strengthen the negative thought patterns and feelings of low-esteem and failure.
Nobody wants to hear this because it leads to the ultimate conclusion that we all need to change. Change can be scary. Change is uncomfortable. Change is challenging. Without change, we are doomed to continue the same behaviors, thoughts, beliefs and stories that we have always adhered to.
We are the authors of our own lives. We make that call. We sometimes make bad choices. We make mistakes. We do things wrong. But if we continue to tell ourselves that same story over and over again, we continue to do the same thing over and over again.
These stories probably started when we were very young. Maybe we had parents who criticized us. Maybe you had difficulties in school. Maybe you’ve had poor relationships or a lack of friends.
With social media widely available and advertising a constant, kids and teenagers are bombarded with messages of what is “perfect” and how you should look.
These beliefs or “stories” that teens tell themselves often continue into adulthood and can cause self-esteem and confidence issues. It is very difficult to change these “stories” when they have been embedded over and over again during childhood and adolescence.
If you are facing troubles in your relationships, your job, your health, your weight, and your appearance, it is all because you are living out of the stories that you tell yourself.
Your emotional memory has accumulated a great amount of data that it uses to inform and protect you in the event that you encounter a similar situation in the future.
The ability of the human brain to compare current experiences to the stored representations of previous experience is referred to as “pattern matching” (Nathanson, 1992). But, at times, emotional memories that are based on your previous experiences may lead you to develop cognitive beliefs that may be contrary to your goals or interfere with them.
For example, you are in search of an intimate and loving relationship. However, you have a belief that you are unlovable and flawed. Therefore you avoid any close contact with others or have difficulty trusting others based on past EMOTIONAL MEMORY.
The most effective way to change emotional beliefs is to change how you think about these emotions. Emotions are a vital component to being human. Without them, we are unable to love, to feel close to someone, to enjoy happiness. However, when emotions are left to control without a healthy established belief system, it can affect us negatively, making it difficult to experience success and happiness.
I’m not saying that you need to remove emotions totally. For any of my fellow Star Trek fans, Mr. Spock would purport that logic should supersede emotion. Fortunately or sometimes unfortunately, we cannot dismiss emotion. There has to be a balance. Because you may have been hurt emotionally in the past does not mean that the same story exists for you in the present.
When you limit your beliefs, you limit your possibilities to success. Some examples of limiting your beliefs include:
- “It’s hard to make money these days.”
You will not push yourself to the limit to make money because you believe that hard work is not worth it because it is not easy to make money.
- “Relationships are too complicated.”
This belief will limit your relationships. If you believe that relationships are complicated, you will not seek a relationship. You will prepare yourself to feel lonely, even though deep down, you are searching for someone with whom to share your life.
- “Risk is dangerous.”
If you believe this, you will never attempt to start anything new because you fear that you will fail. And if you don’t attempt anything at all, there is no chance for you to be successful.
- “I’m not like successful people. I don’t have the personality.”
You may not be comfortable in conducting sales, so you may not be the top salesperson. However, there are many other ways to be successful. You need to base your goals and your aspirations on your strengths and your abilities.
Your belief has an impact on your expectations and assumptions. Start from there. What is that you assume about yourself that is correct? What do you believe that is incorrect?
Take an honest inventory and assessment of your beliefs.
Write down three things that you believe about yourself that is flawed or incorrect.
Write down three things about you that is accurate and true.
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David R. Wright MA, LPC, CHT
The Motor City Hypnotist